1. State your request ("Please put away your blocks.")
2. Restate your request and give a reason ("You need to put away your blocks so we can leave for the store.")
3. Offer to help him obey ("Do you need help picking up your blocks?")
4. Help him obey ("You're having troubling listening to Mama. Here, let's pick up your blocks together.")
5. Help him calm down if he throws a fit.
I'm sorry, but that makes me want to throw up a little bit!! What exactly does that teach a child, except that mommy will beg him to do what he is expected to do and then, if he doesn't really want to do it, she'll help him along? And, how is this going to translate into the "real" world of elementary school and, at a later date, college and employment? Are these children going to grow up expecting their bosses to beg them to do their job and then say, "Well, you seem to be having trouble listening to Mr. Farkle. Let me help you get that financial report done!" Then, of course, if they want to throw a fit about it, Mr. Farkle will pander to them and maybe bring them a soda to help them calm down.
UGH! I'm sorry, but I expect my children to do what I tell them to, when I tell them to do it, and they know that there will be unpleasant consequences if they don't comply. That's what comes with the authority of being a parent. (Note: they don't always do what I tell them to do exactly when I tell them to do it. THAT'S what comes with testing the limits as a kid!!
OK. I'm done ranting now.
Back to our regularly scheduled normalcy.
Hey, at our house, discipline is really harsh. If you don't obey, you're made to lie down in front of an oncoming train!!